What Exactly is Friendship?

Friendship could be defined in so many ways. It may have lots of meanings; but;  do we really know the real message behind this word? Some people say that there are no permanent friends. We meet people, became friends and sooner or later, they will go. For the children, when they are asked who are their friends, they would probably name drop their playmates, classmates, cousins and neighbors. But when they grow up, things would definitely change with regards to who their friends are. Friends can be grouped into different categories such as regular friends, constant friends and best friends.    

Among these categories, best friends are perhaps the most preferred. Best friends play integral part of one’s life.  These people are not just there so that you will have someone to talk to. This sort of friendship is very special and can be long lasting. Oftentimes, these are the people we met and became close to no matter what age, gender or race they may have. Being best of friend is not measured based on how long you have known each other, although mostly, best friends are the ones we usually knew for years. We commonly share secrets with these people. Many of us would probably tell our best friends some confidential things which we cannot really share with our parents or siblings. Also, these are the people to whom we turn to when we have problems apart from our family. They cry with us, give advices, scold us and even help us handle any kind of problem. They laugh with us and share victory. In short, they become part of our existence.

Real friendship cannot be affected by distance. No matter how far that person may be, even if he/she is in the other part of the world, best friends will always be there. Different means of communications such as Internet and cellular phones have been of great help to a lot of people these days. Take for instance the social networking sites, many of us are able to continue communicating not just with our best friends but some other friends from different parts of the planet by simply using these websites. We can find updates on how they are doing and see some latest pictures of them. Additionally, we can instantly chat with them via different instant messenger including Yahoo messenger, Skype, Google Talk and many others. See? Distance could never hinder true friendship.

Best friends are really hard to find. They don’t come by and, boom!, you would say “Hey, I want you to be my best friend.” This kind of friendship frequently requires getting to know each other, the real person behind those fancy or simple clothes. It does not matter if you wear tattered jeans or branded clothing, the most important thing is that you get to know each other, accept each other and are there for each other. A true friendship has been tested by time. It can’t be called a genuine friendship if it did not experienced trials and problems. All of these issues can make the bond even stronger once surpassed. Those times that you have worked together and fought together are great proofs of a real friendship.

So, what is really friendship? Sometimes, it is actually unexplainable, you just felt it. You just know that, that person clicks with you specially on certain things which are important to you. You simply understand each other even if there are no words spoken. There might be misunderstandings sometimes, but, you can easily mend and learn from those. Real friends do not pull one another down; rather, they support and motivate each other to become better and better. All of these are the ingredients of what so called “True Friendship.”